You might feel guilty about asking for support while your loved on is being held – but it is vital that you get help, too. Most former hostages admit that the experience is worse for their families who have the constant worry of the unknown. Some kidnappings are safely resolved quickly, but others take longer. The stress of the situation will begin to take its toll, but there are simple things you can do to keep yourself and your family well. This will help to improve your concentration, stay on top of the case, and be ready for the twists and turns along the way. See Looking after yourself and your family
Staying on top of the kidnapping, making sense of the information you are given or find yourself and being prepared for meetings with the government and others can be difficult given the stress you may be under. There are a number of practical things you can do early on that will make this easier for you to manage. See Managing the Kidnapping.